broken hearts and independence
It's comforting to know how fast broken hearts can heal with a little TLC. But it still baffles me how minds cannot make themselves up about what direction to take in life.
Imagine not knowing yourself well enough to know what you want in life: the kind of life you want to live, the kind of things you enjoy, the kind of man you want to marry, the kind of person you want to be. Maybe that's the reason people get so lost and caught up in less than meaningful relationships. Before concentrating on improving themselves and deciding, plus following through with what kind of person they want to be, people side-step the focus and dive into trying to be "complete" by finding another. But isn't it logical to think that if you don't like yourself, when you're naked, alone and facing yourself in the mirror, how can you expect to give the amount of love and respect that others deserve if you can't give it to yourself?
It's true that people, being social animals, are meant to live with others. Still, we are autonomous, and many of us take it for granted. We become co-dependent on our parents, friends or lovers, forget what it's like to be alone, and then run to find shelter in the arms of another as soon as life gets rough. We can't help it. It's in our nature. But independence is liberating--it leaves us vulnerable yet discriminating against ourselves. Once we find it, we'll put it on a shelf, be proud to say we've experienced it and then go back to co-dependency.
Here's to you Bono, it's true, sometimes you can't make it on your own, but that's alright.
k
Imagine not knowing yourself well enough to know what you want in life: the kind of life you want to live, the kind of things you enjoy, the kind of man you want to marry, the kind of person you want to be. Maybe that's the reason people get so lost and caught up in less than meaningful relationships. Before concentrating on improving themselves and deciding, plus following through with what kind of person they want to be, people side-step the focus and dive into trying to be "complete" by finding another. But isn't it logical to think that if you don't like yourself, when you're naked, alone and facing yourself in the mirror, how can you expect to give the amount of love and respect that others deserve if you can't give it to yourself?
It's true that people, being social animals, are meant to live with others. Still, we are autonomous, and many of us take it for granted. We become co-dependent on our parents, friends or lovers, forget what it's like to be alone, and then run to find shelter in the arms of another as soon as life gets rough. We can't help it. It's in our nature. But independence is liberating--it leaves us vulnerable yet discriminating against ourselves. Once we find it, we'll put it on a shelf, be proud to say we've experienced it and then go back to co-dependency.
Here's to you Bono, it's true, sometimes you can't make it on your own, but that's alright.
k
posted by Kim at 5:19 PM
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